Speechless

Speechless – Dan + Shay

Song:  Speechless

Main Point: Just like a groom when he sees His bride, believers will be in awe when they see the place God has planned for them to spend forever.

About the Artist – Dan + Shay

Hailing from Pennsylvania, Dan Smyers started touring with a band called Transition when he was just fifteen years old. Smyers started attending Carnegie Mellon University to study finance before his life took a different path. He and his wife Abby Law married in 2017 after meeting four years earlier at an animal rescue center. They now proudly raise three dogs as well as being huge supporters of the Nashville area Proverbs 12:10 Animal Rescue.

Shay Mooney was raised in Arkansas. After graduating from Union Christian Academy he attended Valley Forge Christian College for only a year before going all-in on his music career. After dating country music star Veronica Ballestrini for a few years, Mooney married former Ms. Arkansas Hannah Billingsley in 2017.

Smyers and Mooney met at a party at Smyer’s Nashville home in 2012. After jamming together for a few hours they knew they had something special and have been writing songs together ever since.

Song Lyrics: Speechless

You say you’ll be down in 5
The smell of your perfume
Is floating down the stairs
You’re fixing up your hair
Like you do

I know that I’ll be a mess
The second that I see you
You won’t be surprised
It happens every time
It’s nothing new

It’s always on a night like tonight
I thank God you can read my mind
‘Cause when you look at me with those eyes

I’m speechless
Staring at you standing there in that dress
What it’s doing to me ain’t a secret
‘Cause watching you is all that I can do

And I’m speechless
You already know that you’re my weakness
After all this time I’m just as nervous
Every time you walk into the room
I’m speechless

It started when you said, “Hello.”
Just did something to me
And I’ve been in a daze
Ever since the day that we met

You take the breath out of my lungs
Can’t even fight it
And all of the words out of my mouth
Without even trying

And I’m speechless
Staring at you standing there in that dress
What it’s doing to me ain’t a secret
‘Cause watching you is all that I can do

And I’m speechless
You already know that you’re my weakness
After all this time I’m just as nervous
Every time you walk into the room
I’m speechless

It’s always on a night like tonight
I thank God you can read my mind
‘Cause when you look at me with those eyes

I’m speechless
You’re standing there in that dress
And, girl, it ain’t a secret
‘Cause watching you is all that I can do

I’m speechless
You already know that you’re my weakness
After all this time I’m just as nervous
Every time you walk into the room
I’m speechless

Oh, you know it, baby

Introducing the Song – You Say This:  Dan + Shay wrote this song after talking about the first time they saw their wives in their wedding dresses and what an incredible moment that was. They wanted to capture the feeling they had when they saw their brides, and the video is actual wedding footage that shows their authentic reactions to seeing their soon to be wives on that day.

The Music Video:  The music video can be viewed for free at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7UoP9ABJXGE

Hand out Lyrics and Play Song.

Transition Statement – You Say This:  What an incredible picture it is to think of their reaction when they first saw their wives on their wedding days. The Bible uses wedding imagery to describe the relationship between Jesus and the church and how believers will respond when they first see heaven. The response to seeing Jesus and the things He does is often speechless. Let’s look at the parallels between what the Bible says and the incredible wedding image painted in this song.

Divide into Small Groups: Let’s go ahead and split up into our discussion groups, and then afterward we’ll come back together for a final word.

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Discussion Questions: 

1. ASK A FEW: For those who have been to weddings, describe a beautiful moment you’ve witnessed at a wedding you attended? (if nobody has a good one, ask about ones they’ve seen in television or movies)
2. ASK A FEW: Share of a time when you were speechless. This could be when you saw something in nature or when something happened that left you stunned.
3. ASK A FEW: At one point the song says, “after all this time I’m just as nervous, every time you walk into the room.” Why do you think he feels this way?
4. ASK A FEW: What are some characteristics you would say are non-negotiables for you as you look forward to a future spouse?
5. ASK A FEW: What are some ways you will prepare yourself now for your future wedding and marriage?
6. ASK A FEW: Why do you think God chose to call the Church (body of believers) the bride and Jesus the groom? What is it about this image that you think He wanted to capture?
7. ASK A FEW: What do you understand the bride’s white wedding dress to represent? Why do you think this is an important part of the wedding day?

Read the following passage:

Revelation 21:2
I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband.

8. ASK A FEW: First read Ephesians 5:22-33. What do you think God wants us to take from that passage about the parallel between a husband and wife and Jesus and the Church?

9. ASK A FEW: Looking now at Revelation 21:2, why do you think the Bible describes the New Heaven (the place where believers will spend eternity) as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband?

10. ASK A FEW: How long did it take God to create the world?  Now read John 14:3. If Jesus said he would go and prepare a place, how long has He been working to prepare the city mentioned in Revelation 21? If He took six days to create this world and thousands of years to create the city – what does that tell you about this city?

11. ASK A FEW: Considering the song we’ve been discussing and the reaction of the grooms to seeing their brides, how do you think believers will react when they see the city God has been working to prepare for them?

12. ASK A FEW: Along those same lines, and considering what we’ve talked about, how do you think Jesus will respond when He sees His church in heaven? (And talk about how amazing that is that He responds with that same awe!)

13. ASK A FEW: What do all these things we’ve talked about tell you about who God is?

14. ASK A FEW: How can you make sure you spend eternity in this city with Jesus?
15. ASK A FEW: We’ve talked about ways you’ll prepare yourself for your wedding and future marriage. What are some ways you will prepare yourself for being with Jesus forever and being in this city?

Wrap Up – You say this:  It is just crazy awesome when you consider that those who have placed their faith in Jesus will one day be in a place that will literally leave them speechless. When you consider different encounters in Scripture, this makes sense.  The prophet Daniel encountered Jesus before He was born as a baby and the Bible says his reaction was he “bowed with my face toward the ground and was speechless.” (Daniel 10:15). The righteous man Job encountered God and responded saying “I am unworthy—how can I reply to you? I put my hand over my mouth.” (Job 40:4). Even John, when he received the Revelation of Jesus that we read in the Bible met with Jesus and said “When I saw him, I fell at his feet as though dead.” (Revelation 1:17). When you consider these reactions to God, what does it say that this same God has made this verse true for you and I? 

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16) 

Take a moment and consider how incredible this reality is, that this God who makes people speechless has invited you and I to approach Him confidently. 

(Pause and give them a quiet moment to pray silently.) 

Jesus has died for you and I so that we can connect with this awesome and perfect God despite the reality of our sin. He not only has done this but He is changing us from the inside out so you and I can be ready for that day when He sees us in heaven and He reacts like a groom seeing His bride. As if this isn’t more than enough, Jesus has been working to prepare the place where believers will spend eternity – and that place is so insanely incredible that you and I will literally be speechless when we see it. When you and I live this life with that reality in mind, it changes our perspective on right now – because we realize this is all temporary. Let’s take a few moments and reflect on that with God, and consider how we need to prepare for eternity. 

(Pause and give them a few moments to pray silently.) 

Just like a groom when he sees His bride, believers will be in awe when they see the place God has planned for them to spend forever. Let’s be people who spend this life preparing ourselves for that encounter. In addition to making sure we will be there, let’s realize this same awesome God wants us to draw near to Him here and now. Imagine how different our lives might be if we engage this God who leaves us speechless and truly believe He is who He says He is. Let’s close our time praying together, asking Him to help us see Him here and now and to prepare us for that moment when we stand speechless before Him.

CLOSE IN PRAYER