I Don’t Care

I Don’t Care – Ed Sheeran

Main Point: In a world where teen self-esteem is at an unprecedented low, connecting with others can be challenging, but God has created us to live in community.

About the Artist – Ed Sheeran

Born in England in 1991, Sheeran has created music since he was young. At the age of 19, he hit the top of the iTunes chart without having signed a record deal. Since signing with Atlantic, Sheeran has sold millions of records, and won Grammys for hits like Thinking Out Loud (2014) and Shape of You (2017). Sheeran has written with artists such as Taylor Swift and One Direction and had a cameo on the hit show Game of Thrones. In 2018 he married former childhood friend Cherry Seaborn in a private ceremony.

Song Lyrics – I Don’t Care

I’m at a party I don’t wanna be at
And I don’t ever wear a suit and tie, yeah
Wonderin’ if I could sneak out the back
Nobody’s even lookin’ me in my eyes
And then you take my hand
Finish my drink, say, “Shall we dance?” (He**, yeah)
You know I love ya, did I ever tell ya?
You make it better like that

 Don’t think I fit in at this party
Everyone’s got so much to say (Yeah)
I always feel like I’m nobody, mmm
Who wants to fit in anyway?

 ‘Cause I don’t care when I’m with my baby, yeah
All the bad things disappear
And you’re making me feel like maybe I am somebody
I can deal with the bad nights
When I’m with my baby, yeah
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh
‘Cause I don’t care as long as you just hold me near
You can take me anywhere
And you’re making me feel like I’m loved by somebody
I can deal with the bad nights
When I’m with my baby, yeah
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh

 We at a party we don’t wanna be at
Tryna talk, but we can’t hear ourselves
Read your lips, I’d rather kiss ’em right back
With all these people all around
I’m crippled with anxiety
But I’m told it’s where I’m s’posed to be
You know what? It’s kinda crazy ’cause I really don’t mind
When you make it better like that

 Don’t think we fit in at this party
Everyone’s got so much to say, oh yeah, yeah
When we walked in, I said I’m sorry, mmm
But now I think that we should stay

 ‘Cause I don’t care when I’m with my baby, yeah
All the bad things disappear
Yeah, you’re making me feel like maybe I am somebody
I can deal with the bad nights when I’m with my baby, yeah
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh (Oh yeah, yeah, yeah)
‘Cause I don’t care as long as you just hold me near
You can take me anywhere
And you’re making me feel like I’m loved by somebody
I can deal with the bad nights when I’m with my baby, yeah
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh (No)

 I don’t like nobody but you, it’s like you’re the only one here
I don’t like nobody but you, baby, I don’t care
I don’t like nobody but you, I hate everyone here
I don’t like nobody but you, baby, yeah

 ‘Cause I don’t care (Don’t care)
When I’m with my baby, yeah (Oh yeah)
All the bad things disappear (Disappear)
And you’re making me feel like maybe I am somebody (Maybe I’m somebody)
I can deal with the bad nights (with the bad nights)
When I’m with my baby, yeah
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh (oh yeah, yeah, yeah)
‘Cause I don’t care as long as you just hold me near (me near)
You can take me anywhere (anywhere, anywhere)
And you’re making me feel like I’m loved by somebody
(I’m loved by somebody, yeah, yeah, yeah)
I can deal with the bad nights
When I’m with my baby, yeah
Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh

Introducing the Song – You Say This:  I Don’t Care is a collaboration between Ed Sheeran and mega star Justin Bieber. It’s been described as having a breezily infectious chorus that arrives 42 seconds in, and after that, there seems no way to get it out of your head without recourse to surgery. The song touches on social anxiety, which Sheeran has previously talked about in interviews. This light hearted and fun song focuses on how being with a special someone makes them feel valued.

The Music Video: The music video can be viewed for free at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y83x7MgzWOA

Hand out Lyrics and Play Song.

Transition Statement – You Say This:  The catchy song I Don’t Care is described fairly well by its title. Sheehan and Bieber, the songwriters, are saying they don’t care about the anxiety they feel when they are with their special someone, and based on the silly video – they seem to be saying they don’t care what others think but they are just going to have fun. In our time we are going to talk about the challenges we face in connecting with others and how God has created us to live in community.

Divide into Small Groups: Let’s go ahead and split up into our discussion groups, and then afterward we’ll come back together for a final word.

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Discussion Questions: 

1. AROUND THE CIRCLE: If you could be British like Ed Sheeran or Canadian like Justin Bieber, which would you choose and why?
2. ASK A FEW: Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Talk about why you think you are one or the other and how you feel about going to large gatherings or parties.
3. ASK A FEW: What do you think the song means when it says, don’t think I fit in at this party, everyone’s got so much to say (yeah), I always feel like I’m nobody, who wants to fit in anyway?
4. ASK A FEW: What does the song mean when it says, with all these people all around, I’m crippled with anxiety? What do you think that looks like? Have you ever felt that way? Explain your experience.
5. ASK A FEW: What are some challenges people can face when trying to connect with other people? What are some things that make connecting difficult for you personally?
6. ASK A FEW: Why do you think God desires for us to live in community with others?

Read the following passage:

Romans 12:16
The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity. 

7. ASK A FEW: Read Romans 12:9-21. What are some things this passage says about how to act in relationships?

8. ASK A FEW: What do you think it means to live in harmony with one another?

9. ASK A FEW: If a person does not like large groups of people, what are some ways they can still connect with other people?

10. ASK A FEW: Verse 16 says, “do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly.” What are some ways people are “proud” in relationships?

11. ASK A FEW: What do you think the verse means when it describes the “lowly” or people of low position? What does this look like in your world?

12. ASK A FEW: Would you agree or disagree with the statement that “people are lonelier now than any point in history”?  Explain why you think the way you do.

13. ASK A FEW: How has technology changed the way we connect with other people?

14. ASK A FEW: In the song, their significant other makes them feel loved. What are some ways followers of Jesus can practically show others love, even when it’s hard?

Wrap Up – You say this: The song I Don’t Care is light hearted but has a strong message about the value of relationships. During our time we talked about some of the challenges we face when trying to connect with other people. We discussed the reality of God’s desire that each of us live in community. Nobody thrives alone, and God has wired us to do life with other people. Perhaps right now you have some struggles in relationships. It could be problems with existing relationships or maybe you’re dealing with loneliness. Take a few moments and do what 1 Peter 5:7 says and “cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.”

(Pause and give them a quiet moment to pray silently.)

The God who created you loves you more than you can comprehend. He meets our deepest needs and has demonstrated our value by saying those who receive Him into their lives can be called His children. He also desires that we look at people with a passion to live in harmony, to not consider ourselves above them but to demonstrate love and a willingness to enter into relationship. While we can sometimes strive for the perfect alignment in our relationships, often God calls us to care for those who might require more effort for us to connect with. Take a moment and ask God to reveal to you people He wants you to reach out to and ways you can demonstrate His love practically in relationship with others.

(Pause and give them a few moments to pray silently.)

Connecting with others can be challenging, but God has created us to live in community. Let’s be people who are willing to do the work to live in harmony with others, overcoming the barriers and demonstrating the love of Jesus to those God puts in our path. If we can embrace this and live out our faith in this way, the impact we will make cannot be overstated. In a world filled with loneliness, God is calling His people to break through and demonstrate His love, even when it’s hard.

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