Music Discussions

We Can’t Stop

June 3, 2013

Dynamic Image Main Point: The world tells us to chase after what “feels good,” but we need to pursue a righteous life with the help of God’s Holy Spirit.

The Music Video:
Today’s younger generation grew up watching Miley Cyrus as The Disney Channel’s Hannah Montana, a teenager living the double life of “regular kid” and “rock star.” The show had 4 seasons and produced 3 albums along with 2 movies. After the final season ended in 2011, Miley broke away from her (clean) Disney image with questionable antics on and off stage. Her newest song “We Can’t Stop” seems to be yet another leap in the wrong direction, continuing her downward spiral.

We do not advise showing this video to students. Although the video is rated “clean,” it is still very, very suggestive and unnecessarily risqué, featuring vulgar dancing, groping, and up-close shots of Miley’s body parts. Need any further explanation?

The Song’s Lyrics:

It’s our party we can do what we want (no drama)
It’s our party we can say what we want (Mike will made)
It’s our party we can love who we want
We can kiss who we want
We can sing what we want

It’s our party we can do what we want
It’s our party we can say what we want
It’s our party we can love who we want
We can kiss who we want
We can sing what we want

Red cups and sweaty bodies everywhere
Hands in the air like we don’t care
‘Cause we came to have so much fun now
Bet somebody here might get some now

If you’re not ready to go home
Can I get a “Hell, no!”? (Hell no)
‘Cause we’re gonna go all night
‘Til we see the sunlight, alright

So la da di da di
We like to party
Dancing with Molly*
Doing whatever we want
This is our house
This is our rules

And we can’t stop
And we won’t stop
Can’t you see it’s we who own the night?
Can’t you see it’s we who ’bout that life?

And we can’t stop
And we won’t stop
We run things, things don’t run we
Don’t take nothing from nobody
Yeah, yeah

It’s our party we can do what we want
It’s our party we can say what we want
It’s our party we can love who we want
We can kiss who we want
We can sing what we want

To my home girls here with the big butt
Shaking it like we at a strip club
Remember only God can judge ya
Forget the haters ’cause somebody loves ya
And everyone in line in the bathroom
Trying to get a line in the bathroom
We all so turned up here
Getting turned up, yeah, yeah

So la da di da di
We like to party
Dancing with Miley
Doing whatever we want
This is our house
This is our rules

And we can’t stop
And we won’t stop
Can’t you see it’s we who own the night?
Can’t you see it’s we who ’bout that life?

And we can’t stop
And we won’t stop
We run things, things don’t run we
Don’t take nothing from nobody
Yeah, yeah

It’s our party we can do what we want
It’s our party we can say what we want
It’s our party we can love who we want
We can kiss who we want
We can sing what we want

It’s our party we can do what we want to
It’s our house we can love who we want to
It’s our song we can sing if we want to
It’s my mouth I can say what I want to
Say yeah, yeah, yeah, ehh

And we can’t stop, yeah
And we won’t stop, oh
Can’t you see it’s we who own the night?
Can’t you see it’s we who ’bout that life?

And we can’t stop
And we won’t stop
We run things, things don’t run we
Don’t take nothing from nobody
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, ehh

Introducing the Song:
Take a look at the lyrics of the song we’re passing out to you. I’m pretty sure you’re familiar with it since it’s Miley Cyrus’ “We Can’t Stop,” a song that’s being played all over the radio, Internet, and public airwaves. Her song is essentially about her use of her freedom. In the lyrics, you’ll see mentions of drugs, alcohol, and sex, a lifestyle that Miley thinks is liberating and purposeful. Let’s listen to the song together, and then we’ll discuss it as a group.

Play the Song: We Can’t Stop

Transitional Statement:
“We can do what we want. We can say what we want. We can kiss who we want. We can live how we want.” That’s the point Miley is trying to get across in her song. It’s true, Miley really can live that way for a while…even though she’s rupturing the lives of those around her. Let’s face it; most of us know someone who lives their life this way, even though it will be costly in the end. Unfortunately, many of “those” people invite us to live the same kind of selfish, self-destructive life. But we cannot accept their invitation. While the world is telling us to live the “good life,” we need to be pursuing a righteous life. Let’s talk about how we can do that.

Divide into Small Groups:
Let’s go ahead and split up into our discussion groups, and then afterward we’ll come back together for a final word.

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Discussion questions:

AROUND THE CIRCLE: Let’s all take a moment to share our names and whether or not we’ve ever seen any of the Hannah Montana shows on Disney Channel.

ASK A FEW: What is the bottom line message that Miley is trying to get across in her song? (Leaders – It’s crystal clear: she says she can do whatever she wants.)

ASK A FEW: Do you agree? Can a person do whatever he/she wants in life? Why or why not?

ASK A FEW: Much of Miley Cyrus’ fan base is a younger crowd due to the fact that she played the HIGHLY popular role of Hannah Montana. How do you think they feel about this song and why?

ASK A FEW: Go back and look at the lyrics again. Do you notice any troubling activities that Miley sings about? If so, what are they?

ASK A FEW: Why do you think Miley titled this song “We Can’t Stop”?

ASK A FEW: Some of us probably know people who live their lives like this song talks about. They are interested in hooking up, getting high, drowning their sorrows in alcohol, and, in general, living for the moment. How would you react if they invited you to join them in that particular lifestyle?

ASK A FEW: If you DO join in with them, why? If you DO NOT join in with them, why not?

Read the following passage:

So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires.

ASK A FEW: According to this passage, what does our sinful nature want and what does the Spirit want? Can you give examples of each?

ASK A FEW: Compare this Scripture passage we just read to Miley’s “do whatever you want” mentality. How do they differ?

ASK A FEW: Imagine living life like Miley says in her song: saying whatever you want at any time, loving whoever you feel like loving whenever you want, kissing whoever you want when it feels good, and so on. ONE BY ONE, what would be some of the consequences of those actions? (Leaders – Use this question as a 3-in-1 inquiry. Get the students to answer what would happen if they SAID what they wanted all the time, KISSED whoever they wanted, etc.)

ASK A FEW: What would it look like for the Holy Spirit to truly guide your lives?

ASK A FEW: How does the Holy Spirit help us live a righteous life instead of a sinful, reckless life?

AROUND THE CIRCLE: How would your life be different if you let it be controlled more often by God’s Holy Spirit?

Wrap Up:
Do whatever you want. Say whatever you want. Kiss whoever you want. Live the way you want. It’s a tempting proposition, for sure.

But it’s not anything new. Not by a long shot.

Miley’s song about doing whatever “feels good” is just the latest example of a culture that lives for the moment. Just a couple of years ago, T.I. sang a song about having it all entitled, “Whatever You Like.” Likewise, Katy Perry’s songs “Teenage Dream” and “Last Friday Night” both talked about chasing the “good life” in their own ways.

In fact, this attitude goes all the way back to the beginning of time. In essence, Adam and Eve were told by the serpent to eat the fruit because they would have what they wanted if they did so. Instead, they lost everything.

So do you and I when we give in to living the way Miley says to live. This philosophy just doesn’t work. It’s selfish. It hurts others. Eventually, it destroys us.

But God offers us soooooooo much more when we depend on His Spirit to guide our lives. Just after the passage we read earlier, the Apostle Paul actually went on to show us what our lives could look like if we let His Spirit control us. Check it out.

That “fruit” or “outcome” is what we really want out of life. Love is better than lust. Joy is better than happiness. Peace is better than jealousy. Patience is better than superficial. Kindness is better than bitterness. And so on.

So it’s really up to you. You can take the selfish and lonely path that Miley suggests, but it only leads to hurt. Or, when you’re given the opportunity to live that way, you can take the Spirit-led path, allowing God to control your thinking, which results in love, joy, peace, kindness, and all those righteous things. Which end result sounds better to you?

Close in Prayer