Spiritual Growth Agendas, Topical Curriculum

Does A Suit Make the Difference?


Main Point: We cannot let the way a person dresses impact the way we care for them.

Discussion Starter: Homeless Experiment
This clip probably doesn’t qualify as “viral” though it’s been making the rounds on social media because of its inherent message about the care – or lack thereof – of homeless people. This simple video is actually an experiment performed on the streets of America using nothing but a camera, a couple different changes of clothes, and one consenting homeless man named Sandy.

In the clip, Sandy, a homeless man, stands on a sidewalk and asks for money in two different sets of clothes. When he asks wearing his normal rags, no one gives him anything, but when he asks for money wearing a suit, he gets plenty of it…from complete strangers.

The video is a great way to address stereotypes, and ensure that we’re taking care of others, no matter how they are dressed.

The Video Clip:
The clip can be viewed online at the following link: http://sfglobe.com/?id=2324&src=share_fb_new_2324

Transitional Statement:
That clip is as interesting to me as it is sad. On one hand, we might think that people would give money to a homeless guy who has nothing, but wouldn’t give money to a guy in a nice suit because they would assume he has plenty. But that’s not what happens in the clip. Instead, folks ignore Sandy when he is dressed in rags and give to him when he looks like a “normal” human being. The world is OK with doing that, but our ministry cannot do this at all because of what God’s Word says about this very issue. God wants us to care for others…no matter how they are dressed! Let’s talk about why that’s important and how we can do that in our groups.

Divide into Small Groups:
Let’s go ahead and split up into our discussion groups, and then afterward we’ll come back together for a final word.

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Discussion Questions:

    1. AROUND THE CIRCLE: As we get started, let’s all take a second to share our names and whether we’ve ever given money to a homeless person.


    1. ASK A FEW: Why do you think people gave Sandy money when he was dressed up in nice clothes and didn’t give him money when he was wearing his old shabby clothes?


    1. ASK A FEW: What feelings did you experience as you watched the video clip?


    1. ASK A FEW: In the video, a quote from Sheila McKechnie was shared. It read, “People who are homeless are not social inadequates. They are people without homes.” Do you agree or disagree, and why?


    1. ASK A FEW: Are the findings from this experiment an example of favoritism or partiality? Why or why not? (Leaders – You may need to define those terms if you’re working with a younger crowd.)


    1. ASK A FEW: OK, let’s think about something. This was ONE experiment. Was it a fluke, a one-time thing, or do you think if someone else did another experiment like this, it would turn out the same way? Why?


    1. ASK A FEW: What message do you think this experiment sent to Sandy? What message should it send to us?


    1. ASK A FEW: How do you think God feels about favoritism or partiality?

Read the following passage:

      • James 2:1-9 (NIV)

My brothers, as believers in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ, don’t show favoritism. 2 Suppose a man comes into your meeting wearing a gold ring and fine clothes, and a poor man in shabby clothes also comes in. 3 If you show special attention to the man wearing fine clothes and say, “Here’s a good seat for you,” but say to the poor man, “You stand there” or “Sit on the floor by my feet,” 4 have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? 5 Listen, my dear brothers: Has not God chosen those who are poor in the eyes of the world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom he promised those who love him? 6 But you have insulted the poor. Is it not the rich who are exploiting you? Are they not the ones who are dragging you into court? 7 Are they not the ones who are slandering the noble name of him to whom you belong? 8 If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing right. 9 But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers.


    1. ASK A FEW: In verse 9, the Bible claims that showing favoritism is sinful. Why does God take this issue so seriously?


    1. ASK A FEW: Have you ever discriminated against someone because of how they looked or dressed? What happened?


    1. ASK A FEW: What does the Bible say happens to us (you and me) when we discriminate against some people? (Hint: Check out verse 4.)


    1. ASK A FEW: The Bible says, in verse 5, that God has chosen the poor to inherit the Kingdom. Why would God do that?


    1. ASK A FEW: What are some ways we can make sure that everyone is treated with equal dignity, respect, and love at our ministry?


    1. ASK A FEW: What should our response be, as Christians, when we see discrimination, favoritism, or partiality?


  1. AROUND THE CIRCLE: What is ONE way you can “love your neighbor” this week…no matter how he or she dresses?

Wrap Up:
At first glance, it may seem strange that the Bible would actually take the time to tell us how to treat people based on their attire. But if you stop and think about it for just a moment, you might begin to thank God this passage in James was included in His Word. Think about it for a moment.

Aren’t you glad that the God of the Universe isn’t caught up on brand names, bank accounts, or appearances? He loves everyone, no matter how they dress…and He calls you and I to do the same. If we are going to follow Jesus in every regard, we have to do the same!

I’m not telling you to run up to strangers and hand them money. That’s probably not the most responsible or safe thing to do. But I’m also telling you that none of us have God’s permission to avoid them and their requests for help based on their appearance. A person wearing rags can get just as hungry as a person wearing Ralph Lauren. That’s why I say we cannot let the way a person dresses impact the way we care for them, love them, or accept them.

No matter who they are, what they’re wearing, or what they have, we are obligated by God Himself to love others and care for them. But it’s not just clothes! We need to make sure we welcome and love:

  • the popular kids and the unpopular kids.
  • the cool kids and the uncool kids.
  • the talented kids and the untalented kids.
  • the rich kids and the poor kids.
  • the friendly kids and the unfriendly kids.
  • the kids who believe what we believe and the kids who don’t believe what we believe.
  • the kids who are easy to love and the kids who are not easy to love at all.

If we’re not doing that, we’re not doing what God said. I want to make sure that our group stays obedient to God. Let’s do what He says! Let’s prove we love Him by loving others.

Close in Prayer

Written by David R Smith


Jonathan McKee

Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Guy's Guide to FOUR BATTLES Every Young Man Must Face; The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices; If I Had a Parenting Do Over; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers on TheSource4YM.com. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.


  1. Nancy
    November 15, 2014 at 12:00 am

    Terrific lesson – everyone learned and great discussion, we followed up with making sandwiches for a local soup kitchen after the lesson.

  2. Jackie
    June 20, 2015 at 12:00 am

    Very thought provoking for our kids. Specially when asked if they’ve recently seen people asking for money. Often they’re with their parents and have commented on how their parents reacted and how they felt about that too – very insightful.

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