Spiritual Growth Agendas, Topical Curriculum

A Piece of My Heart

This simple skit is a great opener to talk about the problems of going too far, sexually. You’ll need 6 actors/actresses for this one.

Actor 1: Austin (guy with the apple)
Actor 2: Girlfriend #1
Actor 3: Girlfriend #2
Actor 4: Girlfriend #3
Actor 5: Girlfriend #4
Actor 6: Potential Wife

NOTE: This will definitely need to be rehearsed several times. It is crucial that the girls who take a bite of the apple take the right size bite each time, so that the last girl that takes the final bite of the apple leaves Austin with nothing but an apple core.

The scene opens with the 5 girls standing in a line, about 4 feet from each other, facing the crowd. They are just standing there, doing nothing. In comes Austin holding his apple when he sees the girls standing in front of him.

    Austin: (Seductively says to Girlfriend #1) Hey cutie. My name’s Austin. I think you’re hot! I was wondering if you and I… (Voice trails off because he leans over and whispers in her ear while holding his apple out in front of her. She smiles a little and takes the apple from him and takes a huge bite from it. Then she nonchalantly hands the apple back to him and walks away leaving him a little dumbfounded.)

    Austin: (Looks at her walking away and then turns his attention to the “apple” and holds it up) Ouch! Easy on the heart, baby! (Sees Girlfriend #2 standing just a few feet away and walks up to her)

    Austin: (As smoothly as he can, he says to Girlfriend #2) Well, hello pretty lady. My name is Austin. Hey what about you and me hookin’ up a little later. We can do whatever you wanna do. Sound good? (As he is saying this, he is dangling the apple out in front of the girl’s face. She takes it from him, takes a huge bite out of it, and then nonchalantly hands it back to him and walks away.)

    Austin: (Stunned) It’s easy to see what THAT girl was interested in! (He holds the apple up for a better look and says) These chicks are harsh on the heart! (Then he sees Girlfriend #3 standing a few feet away so he goes over to her)

    Austin: (In a sultry voice he says to Girlfriend #3) Hey baby, my name’s Austin. (Suddenly acting alarmed) Baby, are you sick? Cause it looks like you need some “sexual healing” (Sing out the words “sexual healing” in the almost falsetto voice of singer Marvin Gaye for a hilarious crowd reaction. Again, he is dangling the apple in front of her face while saying this. She takes it from him, bites off a big piece, and then nonchalantly hands it back to him and walks off.)

    Austin: (Enraged) So that’s how it is, huh?! You just take what you want and then leave! What’s a guy gotta do around here? (Then he sees Girlfriend #4 standing in front of him)

    Austin: (As sexy as ever, he says to Girlfriend #5) Hey baby. Name’s Austin, and I’m the American Express card of men…you shouldn’t go home without me. Whatcha think? (He asks this as he dangles the apple in front of her. She takes it from him and takes one last bite and leaves NOTHING but the apple core remaining, then hands it back to him and walks away.)

    Austin: (Deeply saddened) Wow. That one hurt the most. I uh, I don’t know….(Looking at the apple) I never thought that my heart could be so chewed up like this. (then he sees Potential Wife standing alone)

    Austin: (Smiles as he walks over to her and says as passionately and as seriously as he can) My name is Austin. I’ve done a lot of growing up recently. I think you are beautiful and amazing. You are everything that I have been looking for. I would like to offer you everything that I have (Holds up the demolished apple in front of her) so we can have an amazing life together. What do you say to that?

    Potential Wife: (Looks at the apple with a confused expression and takes it in her hands) Austin, I’m sorry. But you have nothing left to offer me. (She hands the apple back to him and sadly walks away while Austin holds his head in shame.)

Transition Statement:
Austin had nothing left to give the woman of his dreams because of the choices he had made earlier in life. When we give ourselves away before marriage, we find that we have less and less to offer the person we genuinely fall in love with. Disobeying God’s commands about sex really chews our hearts up.

Divide into Small Groups:
Let’s go ahead and split up into our discussion groups, and then afterward we’ll come back together for a final word.

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Discussion Questions:

  1. AROUND THE CIRCLE: As we begin, tell everyone your name and your favorite fruit.
  2. ASK A FEW: How would you describe the kind of person Austin was?
  3. ASK A FEW: What did you feel for Austin when the last girl told him, “he had nothing left to give her?”
  4. ASK SOMEONE: Do you think Austin regretted his decisions about having sex before marriage?
  5. ASK A FEW: In this simple skit, Austin cost himself a wonderful wife. But what are some of the other prices young people pay for choosing to have sex before they are married? (leaders-broken hearts, angering God, sexually transmitted diseases, guilt and shame, pregnancy, etc.)
  6. ASK A FEW: With all of the potential costs associated with having sex before marriage, do you think it is worth the risks?
  7. Read the following passage:

      1 Corinthians 6:18-20
      18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

  8. ASK A FEW: What does Paul say we should do when it comes to sexual immorality?
  9. ASK A FEW: Do you agree with Paul that people who sin sexually, “sin against their own body?”
  10. ASK A FEW: Paul says that each person’s body is a temple of the Holy Spirit. Why does he say that?
  11. ASK A FEW: Paul’s main point of this passage is for us to “honor God with our bodies.” What does that look like in our everyday lives?
  12. ASK A FEW: Lots of teenagers wonder “how far is too far” when it comes to sex. What do you think the limits are?
  13. ASK A FEW: Lots of teenagers also wonder what God thinks about sex. What do you think God thinks about sex, in general? (leaders – As a gift to us because He loves us SO much, God gave us the ability to have sex. However, He gave parameters for this gift!)

    Leader: Say, “Let’s take a look at one more passage from this guy Paul to see if we can get an answer for some of these questions. Everybody turn to Ephesians 5:1-3 to see what God thinks about sex and boundaries.”

    Read the following passage:

      Ephesians 5:1-3
      1 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
      3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.

  14. ASK A FEW: How much sexual immorality does Paul say should be amongst God’s people? (leaders – Not even a hint of sexual immorality!)
  15. ASK A FEW: So, if the biblical standard for us is NO hint of sexual immorality, how far is too far?
  16. ASK A FEW: Do you think our lives would be better if we lived like Paul says to live, “without a hint of sexual immorality?” Why or why not?

Wrap Up
Tonight we watched a young man experience a painful reality that was caused by his own actions of having sex before marriage. Seeing what his sexually immoral lifestyle cost him was eye opening. It was sad to hear the last girl say he had nothing to offer her.

We also took a look at what the Bible has to say about sex. Hopefully, you saw that God thinks of sex with high regard! It was His “invention” and gift to us. And it is, as all of His gifts are, a great gift! But, it comes with boundaries! If your mom and dad give you a car, there are rules that come with it: don’t speed, drive carefully, don’t drink and drive, etc. God’s gift of sex has rules, as well.

Lastly, we learned the answer to the question, “How far is too far?” The Bible says that God has bought us with a price and we are no longer our own. We must honor God with our entire being. God wants our lives so pure that there is not even a hint of sexual immorality within us. More than likely, if we are asking the question, “How far is too far?” then we are already crossing the line of sexual immorality in our minds.

Guys, this is a huge subject and an important one. I hope that if you have more questions about this, you’ll grab one of the adult leaders before you leave tonight. They would love to talk with you about your questions and thoughts.

Closing Prayer

Written by David R. Smith


Jonathan McKee

Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Guy's Guide to FOUR BATTLES Every Young Man Must Face; The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices; If I Had a Parenting Do Over; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers on TheSource4YM.com. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.

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