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Staff Guy Wants To Be A Ladies' Man


I am a youth director outside of Washington DC. I just finished up my first year at this church. There has been an “issue” that got brought up. One of my volunteer leaders is a little bit to affectionate to the girls in the youth group. Nothing like sexual harassment or anything like that, but girls have expressed they don't feel comfortable around the leader. I realized that the old youth director who was here forever either did not set suitable leader requirements or guidelines dealing with students of opposite sex, and now I am paying the price.

I understand that I desperately need to set some guidelines. But, I am looking anywhere for stuff to hand out at the leaders meeting I have called to go over what I expect a leader to be. I didn't know where to look, and I come to your site for a lot of great stuff like games, talks and stuff like that. So, I thought you could maybe be of service. Do you have guidelines, rules, requirements of leaders.

Tony, Washington D.C.



Thanks for the email. First, I'd like to say that I was not trying to be affectionate, I just naturally … oh … you weren't talking about me?


Seriously. I'm glad to hear your desire to take action and require character out of your staff. I spoke at one too many youth groups with issues like you discussed.

Good timing- because on my LOGISTICAL CRUD page. I have sample Staff Guidelines sheet that I gave to my staff to read and sign before working with students. It goes over those very things. FURTHERMORE, I also cover that again in my screening guide, asking them about that very topic. Take a peek at those sample pages.



Jonathan McKee

Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Guy's Guide to FOUR BATTLES Every Young Man Must Face; The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices; If I Had a Parenting Do Over; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers on Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.

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