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My Kids Ignore New Kids


We have problem with cliques and excluding new students in our group- what would you do to address this- are there movie clips that you could incorporate into a talk?




Thanks for the email. Good question.

I think this requires more than a talk. There are several things you can do:

  1. I'd address it with my student leaders. I don't know if you have a student leadership program (you'll see some of my student leadership apps, etc. on my LOGISTICAL CRUD page) I'd train my students about reaching out. (See my article on the I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO . . . page- HOW DO I UNDERSTAND AND REACH THE UNCHURCHED TEEN)
  2. Then I'd make sure my staff models it. If my staff mingles with new kids- if they greet them the same, invite them on trips, in small groups, etc. then the new kids feel as “noticed” as the old.
  3. Use small groups. It puts new kids in a position where they get to know others and others get to know them. Small groups break down walls and create greater intimacy. You can see my article on small groups on my I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO . . . page as well.

Hope that helps.

God Bless,



Jonathan McKee

Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Guy's Guide to FOUR BATTLES Every Young Man Must Face; The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices; If I Had a Parenting Do Over; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers on Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.

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