Have you ever been confronted about something, by someone who is guilty of the same thing? My guess is that most of you have had this happen to you. Often the person who accuses you of something, may actually struggle with that very same thing, and they don’t even realize it. Or even worse, they may know that they struggle with the same thing, they just don’t know that others realize it. In psychology that is called “projection” and I have seen my share of it in life. It is also extremely frustrating, especially if there is some truth to what they are saying
Just today, my wife and I were talking about our almost 21 year marriage, and the reasons for its success and longevity (especially in our disposable culture). Without thinking, Amy immediately said “It’s because we really trust each other.” I smiled, because “trust” was the exact word I was thinking of. The fact is that Amy and I do not hide anything from each other.
But this wasn’t always the case. When I was in my twenties, I was not a trustworthy person at all. I was not a person who could be counted on, and believe me, that is a lonely place to be. But over the last two decades