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Never Be the Same

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Dynamic ImageMain Point: Relationships can be the most wonderful things in life, but can our dependency on them be unhealthy? Should we allow ourselves to become intoxicated by others, leaving us in withdrawal if the relationship crumbles, or is there a better way to go about it? How should relationships factor into our desire for satisfaction?

The Music Video: Never Be the Same

As a fifteen year old, Cuban native Camila Cabello decided to compete on the Fox TV show, X-Factor. After her first solo performance, Cabello joined other contestants to form the group Fifth Harmony. Fifth Harmony won third place on the show, which propelled them to a record deal. After several successful years with the group, Cabello made a somewhat controversial split. Despite her departure, she would release several singles before her debut album dropped in January of 2018. Her song, “Never Be the Same” has risen to the top ten on the Billboard Hot 100 chart as well as ascending on the iTunes top songs.

PASS OUT TO EVERY STUDENT

Song Lyrics:

Something must’ve gone wrong in my brain
Got your chemical all in my veins
Feeling all the highs, feeling all the pain

Let go on the wheel, it’s the bullet lane
Now I’m seeing red, not thinking straight
Blurring all the lines, you intoxicate me

Just like nicotine, heroin, morphine
Suddenly, I’m a fiend and you’re all I need
All I need, yeah, you’re all I need

It’s you, babe
And I’m a sucker for the way that you move, babe
And I could try to run, but it would be useless
You’re to blame
Just one hit of you, I knew I’ll never be the same
It’s you, babe
And I’m a sucker for the way that you move, babe
And I could try to run, but it would be useless
You’re to blame
Just one hit of you, I knew I’ll never ever, ever be the same
I’ll never be the same
I’ll never be the same
I’ll never be the same

Sneaking in LA when the lights are low
Off of one touch I could overdose
You said, “stop playing it safe, girl I wanna see you lose control”

Just like nicotine, heroin, morphine
Suddenly, I’m a fiend and you’re all I need
All I need, yeah, you’re all I need

It’s you, babe
And I’m a sucker for the way that you move, babe
And I could try to run, but it would be useless
You’re to blame

Just one hit of you, I knew I’ll never be the same
It’s you, babe
And I’m a sucker for the way that you move, babe
And I could try to run, but it would be useless
You’re to blame

Just one hit of you, I knew I’ll never ever, ever be the same
I’ll never be the same
I’ll never be the same
I’ll never be the same

You’re in my blood, you’re in my veins, you’re in my head (I blame)
You’re in my blood, you’re in my veins, you’re in my head

I’m saying it’s you, babe
And I’m a sucker for the way that you move, babe
And I could try to run, but it would be useless
You’re to blame

Just one hit of you, I knew I’ll never be the same

It’s you, babe
And I’m a sucker for the way that you move, babe
And I could try to run, but it would be useless
You’re to blame
Just one hit of you, I knew I’ll never ever, ever be the same

The Music Video: The music video can be viewed for free at
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ph54wQG8ynk

Transitional Statement:
In our search for satisfaction, relationships can be a source of fulfillment. We find others who seem to understand us, people who we enjoy being with, and some who bring us happiness. While relationships are one of the true joys in life, is it possible that we can allow them to have too much influence in our lives? Is it possible for others to play a role in our lives that goes too far, and in our search for satisfaction we end up putting ourselves in an unhealthy place?

Let’s talk about this a bit and then look and see what God’s Word says on the subject.

Divide into Small Groups:
Let’s go ahead and split up into our discussion groups, and then afterward we’ll come back together for a final word.

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Discussion Questions:

    1. ASK A FEW: What are some characteristics of relationships that bring you joy?

 

    1. ASK A FEW: What are some characteristics of relationships that frustrate you?

 

    1. ASK A FEW: What are some things in your life that you would admit have too much influence on you?

 

    1. AROUND THE CIRCLE: What does it look like when a relationship is addicting? How did Cabello describe the addiction of relationships in her song?

 

    1. ASK A FEW: Why do you think we pursue things that can be unhealthy for us?

Read the following passage:

      • 1 Corinthians 6:12

I have the right to do anything, you say – but not everything is beneficial. I have the right to do anything, but I will not be mastered by anything.

 

    1. ASK A FEW: What do you think the author means when he writes that he has the right to do anything?

 

    1. ASK A FEW: In what ways is it true that not everything is beneficial?

 

    1. AROUND THE CIRCLE: What are some things in your life that you would admit you do, but are probably not the best things for you?

 

    1. ASK A FEW: Looking at the lyrics to the song Never Be the Same, are there things Camila sings about that you would say demonstrate a relationship that is not the best thing for her?

 

    1. ASK A FEW: What does it mean to be mastered by something? Why do you think God desires for us to not be mastered by anything?

 

  1. ASK A FEW: The death of Jesus on the cross gives you freedom to not be mastered by anything. What does it look like for you to live a life of freedom in this way?

Wrap Up:
During this time, we listened to Camila Cabello sing about an addictive relationship. She describes it, saying it’s just like nicotine, heroin, morphine. While most people do not have experience with those specific drugs, it paints a powerful picture of how she feels about this relationship. Singing about this relationship, she says;

You’re in my blood, you’re in my veins, you’re in my head

As we look at 1 Corinthians 6:12, we see that as followers of Jesus, we are permitted to have relationships. We are permitted to do many things, but the lens by which we look at these things should be are they beneficial? Will these things help me be the person God created me to be?

So what should get our attention? What are the things that are beneficial to us and will help us get where God has called us to go?

The answer there is to focus on things that last. 1 John 2:17 says:

The world and its desires pass away

The things in this world will not last, so we are called to focus on things that will get us where we want to go with God, and one way to determine those things is to focus on what will last.

What are some things that will last, and will help move you forward in your relationship with God?

(Pause and give them a moment to consider this question.)

In Matthew 6:33, Jesus said:

Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

The things of God will last beyond this life. Investing in an authentic relationship with Jesus is what we were made for; it’s what will fulfill us. If we pursue that, He will take care of the rest.

What do you need to do so you can shift your focus from things that are not beneficial to a relationship with God that will last?

(Pause and give them a moment to consider this question.)

It is so easy to go with the flow and chase after the things that everyone else values. God has called you to be different and to chase after things that will last. God has invited you to things that are beneficial, and that starts with knowing Him in an intimate way. While there are relationships in this world that help us grow in our faith, we must be careful to not allow other relationships to consume us. If we trust Him, and seek Him first, we can be confident of even greater things to come.

CLOSE IN PRAYER

Written by Rob Chagdes

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Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books including the brand new The Bullying Breakthrough; The Teen’s Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices; If I Had a Parenting Do Over; and the Amazon Best Seller - The Guy's Guide to God, Girls and the Phone in Your Pocket. He speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources for youth workers on TheSource4YM.com. Jonathan, his wife Lori, and their three kids live in California.

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